by don Miguel Ruiz with Janet Mills
Love and respect are what we should teach our children, but the only way to teach them love and respect is to love and respect ourselves. There is no other way. We can only give what we have, not what we don’t have. I can only share wh...
by don Miguel Ruiz with Janet Mills
Many people come to me and say, “Gosh, I want someone who loves me. I want the right man or the right woman to come into my life.” Who is the right man or the right woman? It’s not about them; it’s about you. If that person comes...
Question:
I am doing my best not to take anything personally. I understand that it’s not about me, but when people criticize me or say something hurtful, I still feel really awful. What am I doing wrong?
Don Miguel’s Answer:
There is no...
Question:
Does being impeccable mean that you always tell the truth, even when it hurts someone’s feelings? How can I be impeccable without hurting others?
Don Miguel’s Answer:
Well, you are also impeccable when you don’t put your nos...
by don Miguel Ruiz with Janet Mills
Think of a problem in your life that has caused you to worry or suffer. Then imagine that you can view your life through the lens of a magical camera. When you zoom in, you see and feel every detail and facet of your life; anything that ...
Question:
My whole life I have struggled with feelings of inadequacy, particularly when around people in positions of authority or those whose intelligence I feel far exceeds my own. How can I make a lasting change in this area?
Don Miguel’s Answer:
Question:
I want to be impeccable with my word, but I’m constantly drawn back into negativity. How is it possible to let this behavior go and stay true to what I want to become?
Don Miguel’s Answer:
The simple answer is that we need to ...
Question:
How do you interact with someone who takes everything personally while remaining true to yourself?
Don Miguel’s Answer:
If someone takes things personally it’s not our problem. It’s not up to us to impose this agreement on any...
Question:
How do I stop taking things personally? My feelings get hurt easily when I feel I am being harshly criticized or teased by my co-workers.
Don Miguel’s Answer:
The way we stop taking things personally is by practice. But we also ne...
Question:
How do I develop the discipline to apply The Four Agreements?
Don Miguel’s Answer:
We develop the discipline by practicing. Just practice the agreements and “always do your best,” which is the fourth agreement. Pr...
